A book can help with
For the child who fights sleep, and the shadows that come with it.
Bedtime can turn from the cosiest part of the day into a nightly battle, and for a lot of children the dark is at the heart of it. Once the light goes off, an imagination that’s a gift by day starts filling the corners of the room, and a child who was fine an hour ago suddenly can’t be left.
A book meets that beautifully. A bedtime story about a creature who’s also scared of the dark tells a child they’re in good company, and many of these gently turn the dark from something to dread into something ordinary, even friendly. Read as part of a wind-down, they do double duty: they settle the fear and they settle the child.
Here’s what I’d reach for at lights-out. Find your child’s age and start there.
Settling the very youngest
For the littlest ones the dark is simply the moment you might not be there. These are warm, rhythmic, and made for reading last thing, more lullaby than lesson.
Little Bear can’t get to sleep because the dark all around him feels too big, so Big Bear fetches lantern after lantern until he works out what will really help. It’s warm and patient, and it quietly shows a parent a gentle way to answer the fear rather than dismiss it. A lullaby of a book, and a deserved classic.
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Willa can’t sleep, so her big brother helps her think of happy things to carry into her dreams, until the dark feels cosy rather than frightening. It gives a child a simple bedtime habit, ending the day on something good, and the pictures are as soft as the idea. Lovely for a worrier at lights-out.
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Making friends with the dark
Now they can follow a proper story, and these do the clever thing of turning the dark itself into a character, something you can look at, talk to, even quite like.
Orion is frightened of all sorts of things, and the dark most of all, until the Dark turns up as a big, friendly, slightly awkward companion and takes him off to see the wonders that only happen at night. It flips the fear on its head so gently that children come away rather fond of the dark. A joy to read aloud.
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Laszlo is scared of the dark that lives in his big house, until the dark speaks to him and shows him it means no harm. It’s a touch more atmospheric than most, best for a child who half enjoys a shiver, and the ending quietly reframes the dark as something that’s simply there rather than something to fear. Beautifully spare.
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For the older worrier
Fear of the dark doesn’t always go with the little years. For an older child, a funny chapter book or a wise old owl can do more than any amount of reassurance.
Plop the baby barn owl is afraid of the dark, which is rather a problem for a night bird, so he sets out to ask others what they make of it and slowly changes his mind. It’s warm and funny, easily read in chapters, and it gathers up all the reasons the dark might be exciting rather than frightening. A gentle classic for newly confident readers.
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Sam Wu is determined to prove he’s not scared of anything, the dark included, in a series that’s genuinely funny about the fears children would rather not admit to. Because it laughs with Sam rather than at him, it lets an older child own up to being scared. Good for a reluctant reader who wants a laugh.
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Still awake at eleven
Older children stop being frightened of the dark and start lying awake with everything else instead. One of these is a story about that and the other is a practical guide they can read on their own.
Charlie stops sleeping because his nightmares have begun following him out of the dream world and into his stepmother’s alarming purple house. It is frightening in the way a child chooses for themselves rather than the way that keeps them up, and the fear turns out to have a cause. Best for a child who actively likes a spooky story.
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Written straight to the older child about why their body clock has shifted, what screens are actually doing, and what to try when they cannot drop off. Morgan is a well-regarded writer on teenage wellbeing and there is real science in here rather than tidy advice. It is aimed at teenagers, so it suits the eleven or twelve year old who wants to be spoken to as though they are older.
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Something to do together
A simple wind-down chart for the run-up to lights-out, and a little ‘torch under the pillow’ plan for the child who needs one. I’m making it now, and it will live here soon.
The dark isn’t going anywhere, so the aim isn’t to banish the fear but to shrink it, to make the dark ordinary and the bed a safe place to be. These stories do that quietly, night after night.
So keep bedtime calm and the same each night, let the fear be spoken rather than laughed off, and read these before the light goes rather than after. If the fear is fierce enough to cost your child real sleep over weeks, a word with your doctor can help.
These pages are written for the grown-ups looking after a child: parents, teachers and carers. A good book can sit beside a worried child, though it never stands in for a real conversation, or for proper support when something feels too big to carry alone.